I don’t call myself a spiritualist; I am only a humble seeker. Growing up in a conventional, orthodox and a staunchly religious environment (almost to the extent of fanaticism) has its own set of disadvantages. Although it has a major role to play in instilling discipline and values in the younger generation, yet, it can create havoc with a child’s psyche by making him a slave of certain pre-set and preconceived notions which, at times, can continue for a whole lifetime without the victim being aware of his own ‘unhealthy’ state of mind. I call it unhealthy as the whole idea of ‘spirituality’ gets screwed up. (Pardon me for the language but I couldn’t find a better word). Perhaps that’s what happened with me.
A Tribute to Sages
September 28, 2009 at 4:31 am (1)
Tags: 2012 end of world, blogs on paranormal, blogs on spirituality, hinduism, India, kundalini, maa anandamayi, nicholas cage, sages, the knowing
Shall We Dance ?
July 6, 2009 at 5:57 am (1)
Tags: al pacino, argentina, dance, dancing, dancing lessons, dancing schools, europe, jennifer lopez, richard gere, salsa, scent of a woman, shall we dance mr clark, tango
It all started with my selection in the school dance team for the annual day celebration. That was my first (and last) performance as a classical dancer on the stage; I was in seventh grade then. Well…well…good old days…beautiful memories! Those applauds, which I heard that night from the audience, still reverberates in my ears. Pardon me if I get drowned in those nostalgic moments on and off. So, after that performance I was strictly instructed by my parents, not to participate any more in such stupid and frivolous activities. I was a science student and such kinds of hobbies were supposedly not meant for me. You want to know why? Just because I was supposed to be buried in my 10 / 10 cubical…
Extra money with Adsense! Sounds tempting but don’t get scammed
February 17, 2009 at 1:56 am (1)
Tags: adsense treasure, adsense treasure scams, extra money with adsense, Google earnings, home base business, internet business, internet scams, money making tools, work at home
Making money online
I’m not going to start off by sharing with you, some million-times-thrashed-out, money making strategies with Google Adsense. Assuming that you already have read tons of published material on this subject and gained expertise in optimizing and tweaking your web pages for getting your share of adsense earnings, it won’t be a bad idea to show you how some people are taking advantage of the rising popularity of adsense and scamming people, especially the novices. In the process of reading hundreds of articles on ‘making money with adsense’, I stumbled on a video, the content of which was as shocking as would be its implications. I’m sure you would be as startled as I was, after you watch it. Possibly, you would even stop trusting any of those ‘money making’ promises which are openly and brazenly sold on the internet. I insist, you watch till the end as the ‘real game’ begins in the last few seconds. You’ll miss an interesting piece of web technology, if you don’t watch the whole of it. Without wasting any more time, let’s begin.
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IS ‘FIDELITY’ OVERRATED?
January 16, 2009 at 2:27 am (1, choices--right or wrong, marriage, Morality/ethics/values/principles, Relationships)
Tags: adultery, advice, cheating husband, cheating wife, family, fidelity, girls, how to, men, oscar wilde, paid sex, pleasure, recreation, Relationships, women
Fidelity by choice or by chance? (Source: Hub pages)
I am, once again, showing the audacity to step into one of the most controversial domains of human relationships. For ages, this has been an arena, in which almost every individual finds himself trapped, at least once in a lifetime, by choice or by chance. Although, literally speaking, the term ‘infidelity’ (absence of ‘fidelity’) can also be extended to relationships involving business partnerships but here I have confined myself to personal and emotional relationships only. Interestingly, the term ‘infidelity’ has always been condemned by those who do not indulge in it and justified as being reasonable, by those who show such behavioral patterns. The reasons for such indulgence can be varied, ranging from, emotional disturbances, a loveless life, short term infatuation, simple desire to experiment, insatiably high sexual urges, passive aggression, a perverse pleasure, to a simple a hormonal imbalance or even a natural magnetic aura which draws the opposite sex closer no matter how much one resists. Considering how complex human psyche has become in the process of keeping pace with fast moving society, the list can be endless.
Curbing the animal instinct!
Knowing very well that no one on this planet is infallible and that, things, often times, just happen and are not planned or intended that way, it still becomes almost impossible to deem such actions pardonable, especially for those who have never set foot in this ‘land of temptations’. Speaking for the partners (lovers or spouses) of such people (showing infidelity) they feel completely cheated, betrayed and heartbroken. When I dug deep into the roots of these socially overrated concepts like ‘morality’ and ‘fidelity’, it dawned on me that such terms were, most likely, coined to bind an individual within the parameters of a socially accepted and an orderly society. Considering the basic (animal) instincts of a human being, it might have seemed quite logical to institutionalize him in a way that he gets all the freedom to roam around in his small world, subject to a proviso, that if he breaks the ‘rules’ he would have to suffer consequences. From one aspect these ‘rules’ seem to be legitimate as they prevent the formation of a disorderly and a chaotic society to a certain extent; imagine a society where one wouldn’t have to think twice before sleeping with anyone. No matter how tempting that sounds, it would have placed humans in the same category as the animals.
Returning the favor?
As I had earlier discussed this subject, briefly though, in my earlier hub (What makes a person cheat on…) I had made an honest attempt to lay down some commonly found reasons which compel a person to become disloyal to his / her partner. Some readers found those reasons justified whereas others discarded them as unreasonable. Speaking for myself, I feel that describing something as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ is only an offshoot of one’s perception and perception changes with time; it also differs from one individual to the other. Trust me I have seen couples who extend to each other, the favor of having multiple partners and they seem to be alright with it. For them ‘infidelity’ does not exist. Where does the problem come up then? Obviously, it arises in a situation where only one of the partners tends to break the vows of commitment and loyalty. Does it mean that we have a tendency to condone only those mistakes which we might have committed ourselves? Wow! That explains why a parent (who had been on Marijuana in high school) does not make a big deal out of his teenage child smoking Pot. Possibly he keeps repeating in his mind, “its ok. I did the same thing when I was young.”
Is it time to amend the ‘rules’?
Like we all know, the statutes keep getting amended and the old laws keep getting repealed, only for ensuring their applicability in the modern times. Society changes and so does its needs. Challenges (in our daily lives) have increased and tolerance has decreased considerably. We tend to find the easier way out. The entire concept about loyalty and relationship has changed.
“Life is too short to cry over spilt milk…why not buy a new bottle!” That has been the attitude of most people nowadays. If a person is not happy in a relationship, he tries to open new doors for happiness instead of subjecting his spirit to unnecessary ‘bondage’ (present day synonym for unhappy relationships). Whether or not, he finds happiness that way, is not a subject of consideration here. Cutting the long story, ‘fidelity’ is an issue on which volumes can be said and written but no conclusive judgment can be ever drawn. It has been a grey area and will, probably, remain like that, till we keep sharing our lives with people who tightly hold on to virtues like ‘Morality’ and ‘Fidelity’. In the words of Oscar Wilde—
What a fuss people make about fidelity! Why, even in love it is purely a question for physiology. It has nothing to do with our own will. Young men want to be faithful, and are not; old men want to be faithless, and cannot: that is all one can say.” - Oscar Wilde
“People, who love only once in their lives, are shallow people. What they call their loyalty, and their fidelity, I call either the lethargy of custom or their lack of imagination. Faithfulness is to the emotional life what consistency is to the life of the intellect — simply a confession of failures.” - Oscar Wilde
Please don’t get me wrong. I am only sharing the thoughts of a renowned author with you. Lol.
ARE YOU AWAKE?
January 6, 2009 at 7:04 pm (1, Spirituality, occult, mysticism, family, dreams, past life actions, psychic readings)
Tags: chakras, dreams, faith, hypnosis, love, meditation, mind power, mysticism, occult, past life, peace, psychic readings, regression, Relationships, spirituality
How do you know you are awake?
Are you awake? You don’t know that, until you come out of your dream; the dream looks as real as your waking life till the time you are in it. What is real and what is not? Welcome to the bizarre world of human mind!
Our brain is said to be the seat of intellect, learning, reasoning, thought process (subjective and objective), logic, will power and many other attributes which are mostly manifested on the conscious level; let’s not forget the unexplained mystical power which lies in the deeper layers of the sub-conscious mind and makes its presence felt in the form of intuition, visions, telepathy and paranormal behavior. Studies say that our brain retains images not only from our present lives but from our past lives as well, the snapshots of which sometimes get revealed to us in our dreams. Most of the times, we discard such dreams as meaningless, for the reason that the people and the locations we come across in our dreams, have (somehow) no nexus with our existing lives. A psychiatrist would probably relate it to our stressed and claustrophobic mind and would prescribe some stress buster exercises. How many of us do really know that our mind has the power to transcend the permissible limits of our consciousness and tread into the forbidden zone… our past life (or lives).
Are we born with a clean slate?
I always felt that the worst sarcasm of Nature was to strip off a human mind from the power of seeing the future and at the same time shutting the doors to all memories from the past lives; an ingenious way to hold a human mind in captivity of the present moment. Perhaps, that’s the way it was meant to be. Imagine how much chaos it would have led to, if we had retained all the memories from our past lives; we would have possibly lived as disconnected and confused souls if we had not been blessed with starting over with a ‘clean slate’. However, I am compelled to think sometimes, whether we are really given an opportunity to start with a clean slate, with no burden of past actions on our weary shoulders and no shadows of our misdeeds chasing us from our past. If that had been the case, then there would not have existed a word like ‘retribution’ or precisely, ‘Nature’s retribution’. Why do we say that we carry the burden of sins, committed by us in our past lives, until we compensate for them in our present lives? If that’s the way it is, then we are definitely not born with a clean slate. If our misdeeds are not wiped off from our ‘slate’ then, so are not our memories from the past. Seems logical!
Know your past, make your future better.
If nothing is lost in this universe, scientifically proven which is, then why do we shy away from the fact, that memories from the past exist and if we don’t discard them as meaningless, they could remind us of some unfinished task or some barbaric act of ours which might have been the cause of misery to others? Who knows getting acquainted with our buried past may open new doors for us which may eventually help us to get reunited with our Higher Self. Isn’t it worth? It might help us to learn from our past mistakes so that we could make our future better. So, friends if you ever had any such inkling in the past or if it’s still continuing, don’t discard it; use the power of your mind through meditation and open new vistas for your yearning and longing soul. Your search might just end. May be it’s time!
WHAT MAKES A PERSON CHEAT ON HIS / HER SPOUSE?
January 2, 2009 at 10:10 pm (1, marriage, Relationships)
Tags: adultery, agreement, contracts, divorce, dreams, extra marital, incompatibility, love, marital advice, marriage, men, post nuptial, prenup, women
Recently I read a similar article on this subject on hub pages. It reminded me of a research that I had done a few years ago, wherein, I had tried digging in to the root cause of adultery. To my recollection, I had anticipated similarity in answers, at least to some extent, from all those people I was going to interview, but I was amazed at the diversity of the reasons which fell on my intent ears, in a 15-day long process. I still remember hearing those conversations over and over on my Dictaphone. Before conducting this so-called research, I only knew one thing for sure -‘Adultery is a sin before man and God and should not be indulged in’.
However, after getting the results on my table, I noticed that my views had undergone slight transformation. I felt myself giving some amount of leverage to those people whom I had interviewed, knowing very well that, what they were involved in, was nothing less than a crime; a crime against the abundant love offered, and the blindfold trust reposed in them by their spouses. Despite knowing the seriousness of the crime, I asked only one question to myself. “What would I do if I were in their shoes?” Honestly, when I looked at myself in the mirror, I didn’t see a saint looking back at me. Hence, from that day onwards I stopped judging people; I stopped holding anyone in contempt of the social norms.
I would like to share those reasons (which changed my thought process) with all of you but before that… let me tell you that despite a stark dissimilarity in their answers, there was one similarity in all those case studies (interviewees); they were all having adulterous relationships and still trying hard to hold on to their spouses, in order to maintain the longevity (I cannot say ‘sanctity’ here) of the marriage. All of them had children and hence, were trying to cope with their situations for the sake of their kids. Let’s go over the excerpts of the conversations. In order to avoid making this article a long and boring one, I am only mentioning the replies I got from each individual (question remaining the same).
After you finish reading, enjoy the video, taken from ‘Kevin Kline’ starrer– ‘I love you till Death’. This is my ‘personal favorite’ as far as cheating on spouse is concerned. .” Ok! Let’s start with real life answers now.
1. “What am I supposed to do? I go back home only to see my wife drained out from the day’s work. The kids, household chores and that ….that new ‘weekly orphanage donation’ stuff…all that leaves no place for me. Whenever I try even touching her in the night, she almost starts moaning.”
2. “I got married because my parents wanted me to. I had to give my consent, as my dad was seriously ill and in the heat of that moment, I gave in to their wishes. I got married to a girl of their choice but soon I realized she was not ‘my type’. We have nothing in common. She hates almost everything which I enjoy doing. I didn’t want to divorce her. It was getting on my nerves so I found out a way……”
3. “His simplicity and child-like honesty seemed to be his best attributes, when I married him. Initially, I thought he was the best person for me but now he drives me nuts. He doesn’t want to change even a bit. A person is supposed to improve on his shortcomings but he doesn’t want to. He sucks life out of me. I found this ‘new friend’ and I like being with him. I feel so complete with him that I wish I had met him before….”
4. “I feel completely at peace when I’m with my ‘new friend’. For some time at least, I forget my wife who doesn’t know anything except nagging and shouting. We’ve been married for seven years and not even once have I got a chance to step into my house without hearing those unpleasant noises and screams coming from every corner of the house. But for my friend, I would have lost my mind.”
5. “I’m only a sex machine for my husband. He doesn’t have even a slightest clue of how to actually love a person. I tried being my best for more than ten years. Things got so bad between us that I found myself on the verge of giving up my life, but then I met this person….”
6. “How long was I supposed to wait for him? He seems to be embroiled in his work all the time and even at nights, he keeps talking about his work. If I try coaxing him into having sex with me, he pushes me away for the reason of being tired. He’s been doing this ever since we got our first child. I felt like walking out of his life but then the kids were there. Thanks to this person whom I met a month ago. I found everything……”
7. “My wife is a good woman. She takes care of the kids, my parents and the house, and I have no complaints against her that way. The only thing is that I don’t find myself mentally compatible with her. I feel a great vacuum in this aspect but I feel so intellectually rejuvenated when I am with my ‘friend’…..”
One thing more was common—Each one of them openly declared: “I have a right to be happy!”
This article does not project my views in any form, whatsoever. It’s only based on the opinions of a handful of people, who contributed to the completion of my research report.
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